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Individual and Couples Therapy

Navigating the Challenges of Grief/Loss, Relationship Conflicts, Life Stages and Cultural Issues

If you are reading this, you probably have been experiencing pain and other challenging emotions for some time, within yourself and/or in your relationship with your partner or your family.  These emotions and experiences are often reactions to changes, transitions or losses in your life that occurred either suddenly or of an intense nature, or have accumulated gradually over a long time. 

My work focuses on three areas of personal and relational distress:

(1) Grief, loss and transition, including loss of a loved one, major illness, career transition, life stage transition (e.g., new family formation, retirement, end of life).  Since 2016, I have facilitated grief groups for spouse loss, suicide loss and teen grief and conducted crisis/loss debriefings for local communities as a volunteer for Kara, a Bay Area grief agency.

(2) Couples therapy and pre-marital counseling, which puts the relationship dynamics front and center while also requiring skilled attunement to each partner.  These multiple challenges are often unfamiliar to therapists without training in this modality.  I have completed significant training at Gottman Institute (Level I and Level II) (link) and at the Couples Institute (Menlo Park, CA) and continue to prioritize professional development in this area.

(3) Culturally informed therapy addressing relationship or family conflict in Asian immigrant or bi-racial families.  Cultural issues challenge many minority or bi-racial families, not just new immigrants.  My experiences living and working in different cultures and places of the world has cultivated my capacity for compassion, empathy and curiosity.  I genuinely seek to understand each individual, couple and family from multiple lens of culture, family history, socioeconomic background, education, race and ethnicity, gender identity and assumptions, and phase of life transition.

In therapy, we process, change and learn to cope with challenging feelings and relational conflicts.  We learn, experiment, adapt or heal - sometimes all of the above.  More often than not, we grow. Indeed, this process can be a transformational and meaning-creating journey in ways one never knew was possible.

Every story is unique and complicated, and every story needs to be told, heard, honored and sometimes, rewritten.  It is in this process that we accomplish the paradoxical yet inseparable pair of change and acceptance that makes it possible for us to not only survive but thrive again.


Quote of the Month

- November 2020:

It takes a long time to be really married.  One marries many times at many levels withina marriage.  If you have more marriages than you have divorces within the marriage, you're lucky and you stick it out.

                            - Ruby Dee


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