Forest Trees



First of all, please take a moment to honor your intentions and efforts in this very moment. Whatever the reason(s) that have brought you here, this is a significant step you are taking to help address something that's really important in your life.

How does psychotherapy work? There is an increasing consensus in this field that an individual's cognitive insight (thinking) alone is often insufficient to create transformational, lasting change.  Rather, we need to invite the full awareness into the therapy room: internally, we evoke and work with the full, embodied experiences, and externally, we seek to understand the self in relation to partner, family, society and culture.

This is why my work with you, regardless of modality, emphasizes the experiential and the relational. And always with respect and loving kindness.

While I have in-depth trainings in a number of approaches and specialties (e.g., Gottman Couples Therapy, Relational Life Therapy by Terry Real, Developmental Couples Model, grief therapy, to name a few) and have many, many tools to help you, I consider the following three areas foundational to my psychotherapy work: systems psychology, attachment theory, and Hakomi mindful somatic psychotherapy.

Systems psychology explores and understands individual experiences in the relational context, from couple-hood and family system to community and larger societal and cultural contexts.  In addition, each of us is a complex system within ourselves!  I also seek to understand these experiences in a client's developmental context and their multigenerational family history.  A system that's an organism has the innate wisdom for self-healing and growth.

Attachment theory is focused on the relationships and emotional bonds between people.  It holds that attachment needs are fundamental to our lifelong wellbeing, and no matter what your childhood "attachment style" was, you have an innate capacity for and can learn to develop secure, healthy adult relationships.

Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy believes that a person can gain an understanding of themselves that is not just the conscious, intellectual knowledge, but is the awareness of the deeper self that includes beliefs, nervous system patterns, memories, images, emotions and attitudes about self and the world.  My goal as your therapist is to assist you in discovering and exploring such core material and in transforming what was once adaptive and essential but is now self-limiting and maladaptive, to allow more freedom and satisfaction in life.


I work with couples to address high conflict communication, intimacy issues, parenting differences, significant adjustments (e.g., becoming parents, retirement, and career change), betrayal, grief and loss (e.g., fertility challenges; miscarriage; illness; death in the family), extended family relationship, mixed race couples, blended families, etc. 

Couples therapy is a specialty.  As such, it requires skills and experiences different from, and in addition to, those for individual therapy.  I have received extensive training in couples therapy (see here) and continue to prioritize professional development in this area.

"Great marriages aren’t about clear communication – they’re about small moments of attachment and intimacy."

– John Gottman


My work with individuals and families focuses on grief, loss and life transitions.  Depression, anxiety and relational dissatisfactions are commonly experienced in these difficult situations.

  • Grief and Loss:  I work primarily with traumatic and complex grief and anticipatory grief, both in individual therapy and with families.  My clinical work with grief started at Kara, a Palo Alto based grief agency, where for three years I worked extensively with spouse loss, child loss, suicide loss, sudden death, end of life issues, victims of crimes, and other traumatic grief clients.  I also facilitated grief groups for spouse loss, suicide loss and teen grief.  Outside of my private practice, I remain a member of Kara’s community outreach team and continue to facilitate debriefings for local companies, organizations and families to address difficult death/crisis situations, including, most recently, pandemic impact and hate crimes.

  • Life Transitions:  Transition is our inner process to cope with external changes.  I work with phase-of-life transitions such as emerging adulthood, new family formation, becoming parents, and retirement.  In addition, I work with individuals on their significant relationship or career changes.  Transition starts with an ending, develops through an often long “in-betweens” before the start of a new beginning.  A challenging transition often involves grief and loss about the ending as well as anxiety and ambivalence about the adjustment and future.


My clients are a good representation of the cultural diversity in the SF Bay Area.  Cultural issues challenge more than just immigrants (new or old), minorities, or mix-racial families but ALL of us regardless of our race or ethnicity.  My experiences as an immigrant and world traveler, living and working in different cultures and places of the world, and developing and transitioning through multiple professional careers have cultivated my capacity for compassion, empathy and curiosity.  I genuinely seek to understand each individual, couple and family from multiple lens including family history, socioeconomic background, education, race and ethnicity, culture, gender identity and assumptions, and phase of life.  I offer psychotherapy in Mandarin if that’s your preferred language of care and self-expression.

Two Dried Leaves

Quote of the Month - May 2022:

"Psychotherapy works to get parts communicating, whether it's members of a family, the body and the mind, or parts of mind."

          - Ron Kurtz, in "Body-Centered Psychotherapy" (1990)